A Glimpse Inside the Magic that is ME!
“Your job is the excuse through which you get to love people.” ~ Panache Desai
I started Divine Love SOULutions to be an instrument of change and love in this world. I believe within us is a power so magnificent that if only we touch on it, we can not only change our own lives but we can be the catalyst for changing the world. More than anything I want to inspire, encourage and ignite the people I encounter to live truly empowered passionate and authentic lives of love. It’s my dream to see people I’m blessed to work with, open up and become who they were meant to be.
I believe LOVE is the only real power to change the world and it is my purpose to re-present the love of the Divine in a way only I can. I want to help others find their unique way of being love in the world. That is why I wrote the book Be the Change: Be the Love and that is why I am determined to bring light and healing to the world one person at a time.
It does not matter where you are starting you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of one step at a time.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~ Maria Robinson
So let me tell you how this all started.
Ever since I was a child I felt the spirit of love and passion for helping people. I’ve always wanted to ease suffering and to give others strength. I’ve always been able to see the good in others and to have faith, vision, and dreams of the future for myself and those around me. I was blessed with many challenges that equipped me to accomplish the goal of leaving a lasting mark on this earth and change the world one person at a time. I’ll give you the Reader’s Digest version of the amazing adventure.
As a child, my Father was my world and I was blessed to have him for 12 wonderful years. Even though he fought cancer on and off over those years, boy did we cram in life when he was well. For many years after his death, life was riddled with pain and challenges that broke me down.
After a series of painful events including being raped and years of physical/mental and sexual abuse, culminating in barely escaping another rape I decided that I’d get so fat that no man would ever look at me like a piece of meat again. The night I was almost assaulted for the second time I made the decision to be too fat to love; I put on over 50 pounds in one year. This caused me to develop an eating disorder and a whole new set of health and esteem issues as well as additional emotional problems.
For many years I struggled with insecurity and weight issues ballooning to over 290 pounds on my petite 5-foot frame. I went through bouts of depression, suicide attempts and finally was treated for PTSD after leaving a mentally and emotionally abusive marriage which completely broke my spirit.
Living with so much stress, a series of injuries, fibromyalgia and a boat load of major health issues coupled with the excess weight became physically devastating. It forced me to stop and get both mental and physical help in dealing with my challenges. It took years of hard work but I’m so grateful for all the experiences that brought me to where I’m now.
I graduated from college with degrees in Education and Psychology. For over 20 years I worked with diverse populations such as women from prison, mentally ill adults, and at-risk youth. I strove to help them improve their lives through teaching and counseling, wanting so badly to make a difference. My own life was a train wreck but I poured myself out trying to empower others when I myself was not yet empowered.
As Lisa Nicols says, “Let your mess be your message.” And “Test is only the first part of your testimony.” I believe all the challenges I’ve faced have developed in me a strength and tenacity that I otherwise would not have found. As a result of my experience, I’ve committed to helping others who have faced or are facing similar challenges. I’ve learned to love deeply, be compassionate and forgive from my heart.
I know from personal experience the power of forgiveness as a victor over many of the experiences I faced. I choose not to be a victim or even a survivor; I am a victor because I chose to take my life back and free myself from my abusers. Forgiving others was the easy part. Forgiving myself for all the lost time sitting around feeling sorry for myself and the self-destructive choices I’ve made was a much harder journey.
I’ve spent the better part of the last 18 years transforming and growing into a woman I’ve grown to respect and love. I can now say that I want to take everything I’ve learned which has turned my life completely around to change the world. Each day I work at living an inspired empowered life. I live more deliberately and consciously from my highest self and have grown to love who I am. I still have hurdles to overcome but I’m more than a survivor, I’m a victor! I choose not to be a victim anymore. I choose to see the blessings in the struggles. As Anthony Robbins says, “Life does not happen to you, it happens for you.”
I graduated from an amazing coaching program. I’m pursuing my writing, public-speaking and coaching goals with all my heart. I believe it is my purpose to help those who are in pain, darkness or fear to find the light and joy through love. I know first-hand what it is like to be so deep in the pit of despair that you can’t see a way out.
I’ve become a powerful coach and want to work with women and men who’ve spent their lives giving away their power. I want to teach them how to take back their power, practice extreme self-care and live lives of passion and purpose. I also want to help empower people with disabilities as someone who struggles with many serious physical challenges daily. I understand how discouraging and hopeless it can feel. But there is a way to live the life you dreamed of. I’m here to help you find your way.
I have to admit I’m a work in progress and sometimes I still fall flat on my face. Sometimes I fall into my old dysfunctional patterns and find myself having to pull myself back up and fight the battles I thought I’d won. Sometimes I find myself not being as patient or loving as I want to be and have to use the tools I have learned to get back to a place of love and peace. Now I’m able to change and get out of it quickly, often in moments by using the tools and techniques I’ve mastered over the years. What used to totally take me out now can be dealt with in the moment; I can be healed and transformed with so much more ease.
Transformation is accomplished by daily practices, you need to consistently apply the tools that transform you and be patient and compassionate with yourself when you fall short. Karen Drucker in her song I Am Gentle With Myself says, “I will only go as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe to go.” It is daily acts of spiritual bliss-ipline that get you there. It takes listening to your inner guidance and asking what is the next step and then the next and taking them one step at a time. When you do this you really grow and life takes on joy and purpose. You begin to live from your highest self and are full of peace and love. This is what I work at teaching others how to do in my coaching and programs.
I believe everything I’ve shared in my book and when I apply the lessons, tools, and principles within it, my life is full of joy, love, and peace. I know that I’m learning to return to my authentic loving self much quicker and when I do fall short I have compassion with myself and I remind myself I am genuinely becoming the woman I was created to be one step at a time. Life is really about remembering who you really are, the pure divine piece of divine love that you entered this life as, when we veer off course we just need to remember who we really are, LOVE.
I know the only answer to change the world is through LOVE. I broke the book down into two parts: Be the Change and Be the Love. It is based on the quote by Gandhi, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Within Be the Love there are two parts, Love Yourself and Love Others. We cannot fully love others until we learn to love and forgive ourselves. Check out the description page to learn more about my book and how to get a copy click here.
I believe if we can learn to BE THE LOVE the world needs we can become the instrument of change that so many are waiting for. I hope this book inspires you to love yourself, love others and teach those around you to do the same. This world will not be changed by politics or religion, only LOVE has the power to change lives forever.
Maria Elena Escobar, CPC
Transformation and Awakening Coach, Spiritual Illuminary and Love Catalyst
Providing Divine Love SOULutions